Healing shame around sexuality- become empowered

Jun 28, 2023Healing, Sexuality

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There is so much shame around sexuality and how we think and feel about it. We carry this shame, and it is instilled within us and carried within our womb. When we carry shame around our sexuality this manifests in ways that affects our self worth and how we stand in our truth. We also feel shame around our self expression. We feel shame in speaking our boundaries in and out of the bedroom.

 Being sexual doesN’t always mean to be sexually empowered

I was always a very sexual woman in my earlier years. However there was something missing, I didn’t feel empowered. I was giving my power away as I was not knowing the sacredness of my own sexual power. I was not realising my power in my sexuality and how it was connected directly to my highest consciousness, to the divine within me and around me. I was not aware that I could harness this power for creation.

When I began to tune into these my two powerful, sexual power centres- my womb and yoni, my whole life changed.
My whole life opened up.
My sexual experiences changed.
I began to unleash myself from the traumas and triggers that I didn’t even know I was holding onto.
My energy began to shift from control and into softness and integrity.

It stopped being a matter of how can I please him and instead, how can I connect deeply to my root, which is in the womb, to connect with my own sexual power and the wisdom that lies within. And how can I see my sexuality as this beautiful connection to spirit.
This is when my whole life changed. It also began to change when I began to dance Brazilian Samba and through this dance over the years, my hips began to unleash from the tension that I didn’t know was there. I began to realise my potential and I began to take ownership of my own life.

And I want that for you.

So my question for you is….

How do you feel about your sexuality and are you holding shame around your sexuality? And do you see your sexuality as something to fear or as a way to please the man, or do you view it as something deeper- As a way to connect with your heart, and feel the depth of your open heart when you are with a loved one.

Sexual Shame

There is so much shame around sexuality and how we think and feel about it. We carry this shame, and it is instilled within us and carried within our womb. When we carry shame around our sexuality this manifests in ways that affects our self worth and how we stand in our truth. We also feel shame around our self expression. We feel shame in speaking our boundaries in and out of the bedroom.

Our sexuality has been shamed to the point where we willingly give it up. We have been taught to believe that our sexuality is bad, that it is something dirty. And this idea has been instilled within us over centuries.

Sexuality is put into that little category of “sex”, and sex is then performance-based, and there is a whole template around what sexuality should look like.

The performance-based thing I think is very important, especially for women, but I know this applies to men as well. We have become so preoccupied with, “Am I pleasing enough? Do I look attractive enough? Is the way that I am doing this or that, is it working?”  It is all in the service of achieving some end goal, which is not what sexuality is about.

Women’s sexuality has been exploited, and we can see this everywhere. I am sure you have seen Sex and the City.

We live in a very fortunate time when we are more liberated than ever and I am forever grateful for the work that the Feminists played in this back in the 1960s. However, it is time we rise again and begin to see sexuality as a sacred act of love. A portal to experience the divine. A way to connect deeper with higher consciousness.

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Repression of sexuality

When we repress our sexuality, the unconscious part of this manifests as not knowing what our own desires, passions, arousals and desired sensations are. And because we don’t know, we become more disconnected from our bodies and sensuality. This occurs because of the repression and unawareness of our own self worth. When we are really anchored in our worth and stand true in that, we don’t feel we need to repress our sexual expression or misuse it as a way for seeking love and approval.

We don’t fear our very own source of power.

I discuss more of this inside Feminine Remembrance: Come Home To Yourself 10 week Immersion. Here we dive into sexual shame and we release the blocks that are stored within our bodies using sensuality and pleasure.

Healing sexuality

As we know now, there is such distortion and displacement around what sexuality is, and there is so much shame around it, that some women feel disconnected from the essence of who they are.

This is why healing your sexuality is more needed than we think. And we cannot do all of the mind set work unless we learn to connect with our sexuality as well.

Your sexuality is the essence of life. It is what creates life. It is where we hold life, where we have our cycles, where our power lies, and this has been taken away from us. So, it is time to reclaim it so we become the heroines of our own life. When we reclaim sexuality as ours, we stop playing victim.

Sexuality is that “life force.” It’s like a buzzing aliveness within you.

When we are disconnected from the body, we become disconnected from this sexual energy and so we either repress our sexuality completely or we overuse our sexuality as a way of seeking validation or love from others. In either case, we have been sold that our sexuality is somehow separate from ourselves. In this way, it is no longer a part of us. 

Sexuality is the most beautiful thing in the world. It is where life comes from. I think it is so important that we fall back in love with ourselves and allow ourselves to enjoy it. To enjoy the pleasures of life. Revelling in the present moment, fully connected with all of your senses. This is where sensuality comes into it. And the way we enjoy the pleasures of life is going to be different for everyone. 

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Come back to the woman you are through your sexuality

We must start to see our sexuality, spirituality and success all as one. They are all intertwined and linked with one another. For this is the powerful force that resides in every woman, in all of life.

When women  begin to connect with their sexuality, they begin to walk this journey of coming within and realising the duality of a woman and man, feminine and masculine. We come into this world experiencing both- this is what creates oneness. Because a man will also rise in his sacred sexuality and return to his warrior heart in this process of witnessing you experiencing and harnessing your sexual energy.

We all then meet in a new world (where the feminine has been dismissed) where she leads with her sexuality and connection to love. Men seek this kind of leadership that is not about destruction and one person at the top. He is seeking this soft landing, this place of the feminine inside of him through seeing her and where he trusts her to lead him. And in this, she surrenders to him and follows his lead also.

When women come and rise into their power through their sexuality and therefore leadership, the masculine energy then naturally comes home. He now knows where to push his energy forward. He knows where to go. 

In spiritual form, the divine feminine is there, initiating in her leadership through her sexuality and then he rises with her through his drive. 

When you reclaim your sexuality you return back to the truth, which is within your body. And then here you realise in this womanly body, in this form, you can tune into this body and then this energy. And embrace both form and spirit/energy together. And this is what opens a whole new world. You come back to the woman you are.

You let go of the shoulds and expectations of you. You unapologetically come back into the body and have courage to rediscover who you really are beneath the shame. 

Begin this journey of returning back to the essence of you by signing up to my FREE 7 Day EROTIC FEMININE PROGRAM. This free program is filled with feminine embodiment practices to begin your journey of returning to love, to sexuality and to ignite your sensuality.

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Hello my love,

My name is Jessica and I devote my life to bringing beauty and love to this world. 

I invite all women to live freely and the closest to their soul through embracing the power of their heart, womb and sensuality in unity with spirituality.  As I believe these are all one.

With my samba dancing background, work around womb and yoni healing and a life dedicated to my spiritual path, I am now here to bring this way of life to all women. To guide you into a life of empowerment, flow and bliss.

As I believe self worth, love and sensuality is every woman’s birthright.

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