As you settle into the new near and start to thInk about what you want to manifest this year, thinking about all the things like money, relationship, community, love, which are all needed and beautiful- I invite you to also drop into another thing.
Something I desire for you to embody and manifest. To make it part of your being.
That is living a life full of pleasure. To start connecting with your sensuality to enjoy the smallest moments that life has to offer.
To enjoy your own body.
To enjoy the sweetness with each person you come in contact with.
To allow space for every energy to be felt through your body. So then you open to receiving life and it’s messages through your body with more ease. In this way you find the sweetness even in the moments of sadness, heartache and anger.
This is what pleasure can bring to you. So I am inviting you to start making pleasure a top priority in your life.
What Does It Mean to Live a Life of pleasure?
Your pleasure is the pathway to experiencing the divine and we can experience pleasure through sensuality. Through your sensual delighting of life.
When I speak about pleasure, I don’t just mean the act related to sex. Instead, it is you becoming so present with life, experiencing life. To really feel so safe to be dropped in to invite in the messages of life through your body, through your sensations and feelings.
Your pleasure becomes the interaction you have with your soul. When you give yourself permission to embody your sexual energy and your sensuality, and you follow what makes you feel pleasurable, you create the life of your dreams. You follow that YES. You don’t settle for less.
This is taking self leadership. The pleasure I am talking about is that feeling of a full body YES that you experience when you are faced with a choice that feels completely aligned.
The more we experience pleasure, the more we start to also create that dialogue with the body in moments when we don’t feel aligned with the Soul.
This does not mean that the choice is always easy at the moment. Often, to follow your pleasure you get to overcome resistance that comes from outdated beliefs and ways of being. And that may not feel good. And when we get real about what we desire and what is holding us back eg. fear of failure, or being judged- the pleasure is what can help us move forward.
Sometimes we make choices or take action from a space that keep us stuck or in comfort. Instead of taking action towards things that lead to ultimate pleasure. And this is what I desire for you.
So here are some ways you can start to make pleasure your leading force in your daily life.
Life moves so fast. We are always looking to the next thing. We might even receive something and because we are used to moving fast, we don’t really slow down to savor the here and now. The blessing that is right infront of us.
It may seem simple but one of the most effective ways to experience more pleasure in your life is to slow way down. Slow down in your love making. Slow down in the way you experience life. Slow down to get real about what you are feeling.
Asking yourself what is present and alive in me right now? And how can I offer myself love right now through my sensuality.
Slowing down in your sex life, whether that’s solo or with someone else can help heighten moments of pleasure, increase connection, and cultivate orgasms that move through your whole body.
It doesn’t have to be complicated either. You can take a deep breath in and just allow yourself to receive your being.
This is pleasure dear sister.
Start a Pleasure Practice
Since pleasure hasn’t been at the forefront of our lives, instead doing, action and keeping busy has been, we require the space and commitment to show up for a regular daily pleasure practice.
Pleasure can be like a muscle. The more you work it out, the easier it gets to access it. And the less it becomes something you achieve, and it just becomes your embodiment. Your embodied way of living which is no different to who you are.
Pleasure is a devotional act of love for yourself. And love does not exist alone. It requires commitment. Commitment to show up for yourself.
So it is important to show up for yourself by setting aside intention time to experience pleasure. Whether that’s with yourself or a partner.
As mentioned, pleasure doesn’t have to be related to sex. Usually we require practice to energize and build on this pleasure muscle and it can start with ourselves. You can start with a self massage, through sensual dancing, through sacred touch. Anything that helps you to connect with your body, and to build the safety within yourself to really acknowledge all that needs to be felt.
This is what pleasure can offer you.
In the FREE 7 day Program : Erotic Feminine Embodiment, I offer some simple, fun and pleasurable ways to start this journey of connection. There is some sacred dance, sacred touch and meditations to being your pleasure practice.
Communicate your Desires
Communication is everything. And when you start to make pleasure a priority in your life, it means you are also choosing YOU. Now this doesn’t mean that pleasure is going to bring positive moments all the time. But when you practice pleasure and choose pleasure, then you understand what it is you need to make your dreams a living reality.
You put fear and self doubt to the side for a moment and you choose the place inside of you that feels true, healing and in service to this Greater LOVE.
Sometimes this isn’t always easy.
Because the truth is, when we have been so used to living from a place of stress, tension, from the aspect of doing and sabotaging our heart, then it means a lot of choosing you and this also can mean there will be letting go. Letting go of old patterns. Letting go of the need to always say Yes when you actually feel the No. Letting go of not honouring your boundaries.
Letting of situations and people that may not respect your heart. Letting go of staying small and not using your voice.
And so by communicating this with yourself what you need, and your partner that you require their support, their tender love, their warrior heart to protect you, this is essential for making space for more pleasure in your life.
It also relates to sex. We need to get real about what makes us feel good. And when you know in yourself what kind of touch you love, what movement you love to use, you can then communicate with your partner what turns you on, what your boundaries are and what feels good.
You can also communicate your No. And that this is your way of acknowledging your heart and Yoni.
Communicating can begin outside of the bedroom. Feeling safe to be so vulnerable with all of your feelings, your body, your naked body. And then it becomes easier to communicate your needs in the bedroom. When you do this, this creates more space and openness to receive pleasure.
YES sister you are so deserving of all the PLEASURE in the world.
And I am here to support you in this.
To use pleasure as a leading prayer to our heart. And the element to healing our heart, wombs and yoni.
We do this in the pleasure, sensual, sisterhood immersion Feminine Remembrance: Come Home To Yourself. If this speaks to you and you are ready to cultivate your inner Muse, to choose you through your PLEASURE, then I invite you to join us.