In a world of perfectionism and obsession, with celebrities and reality shows, with so much information coming at us that tells us what a “perfect woman” is, this is leaving us to feel like we don’t have what it takes to be successful in love, in life, in beauty, leaving us to feel so much doubt about ourselves. Or we begin to watch other women and feel that another woman is better, or more sexy, or more successful. And then we might even find ourselves seeking validation from others.
This really plays on our mind, guiding us to believe that we are not enough.
If any of these sound familiar you are not alone.
In this blog and video blog below, I speak about misogyny and how we may be perpetuating these stories about what it means to be “feminine” or the “perfect woman.” And how it is our responsibility to change these false stories to develop a more healthy, holistic approach to healing and wellbeing.
Check out this blog where I discuss more about the challenges that we may face as women in this busy, modern day world.
Is internalised misogyny showing up in the way you relate to yourself?
Whether conscious or unconscious, the longing to feel seen, wanted, loved and desired is intrinsically woven within our body, psyche & nervous system as women.
Yet, through unhealthy programming, through the constant images of the “perfect woman”, the false expectations we have in sexuality, the “quick orgasms” we see in movies that women have, we have collapsed into objectifying ourselves and our bodies as a way to seek love, validation & approval.
We have completely numbed ourselves.
Internalised misogyny shows up in our thoughts, beliefs, attitudes & bodies as women. And this leaves us to be constantly comparing with other women, or even go the other way of slut shaming her, or we look at how many likes we have on social media, or we wear a mask as a way to prove ourselves to society, to men, to potential clients that we are perfect and have it altogether.
We have been born into a society that will continue to feed this idea that we are either not beautiful enough, worthy enough, or valued enough.
We are feeding into the false ideas of society of what it means to be a woman. And through this we seek validation outside of ourselves, we worry about what others think of us, we lack confidence in ourselves and we seek approval.
This creates such a disconnection to your womanhood.
What your womanhood thrives on and requires for a life of balance and ease
Your “feminine” essence or your womanhood thrives on a relaxed body,
It requires your loving attention.
On developing the most love relationship with your vagina. On loving your vagina for her shape, her colour, and getting close to her like your best friend.
Your womanhood relies on you really expanding your heart to know that you are so unconditionally beautiful, loved and worthy. Every bit of you.
This is real eroticism. Eroticism is to be fully embodied in your sensual, sensual expression.
Your self worth, confidence and empowerment all lies in how you relate to the wisdom of your body but we are conditioned to believe that it lies in our accomplishments, how we look, saying the right thing, having the most followers on social media.
Your feminine energy has nothing to do with your becoming more of anything. It has nothing to do with being more of anything, or wearing lipstick, or wearing heels to be more attractive, or being skinnier to be more sexy, or being more dominant in the bedroom. This is all programming and conditioning.
It is all about becoming so in love with yourself, your body, forming a relationship with your shame, your imperfections, all of it, that you actually know you are whole.
And seriously.. who is defining and these beauty standards and false ideas about the “perfect woman” anyway.
It is time we recreate the beauty standards as “beautiful, natural woman.”