Learning about feminine and masculine energies can sometimes feel like another pressure placed upon us as women. A rigid mold to fit into. A standard to achieve. It can create shame for us modern-day women, making us feel like we’re not feminine enough, not sensual enough, not soft enough—and therefore, not good enough.
But here’s the truth…
Reclaiming your feminine energy—the very essence of what I love guiding women into—isn’t about swinging to one extreme and abandoning the masculine. It’s about finding your inner core, cultivating a deep well of strength, and allowing yourself to dance fluidly between both energies- sacred masculine and feminine.
So to my women who feel they are too much in their masculine— You are STILL deeply feminine.
You were NEVER unfeminine. You were never too masculine.
So many women come to me longing to feel more feminine, and I love this because we are experiencing a new awakening on Earth. Feminine consciousness is rising. There is a deep yearning to reconnect with the erotic feminine, the energy of creativity, pleasure, and life force itself.
Yet, in doing this work, we must remember—we cannot forget the masculine within us. We need him. We just need to offer him a new language—one that is felt through the love elixir of the feminine.
Creating Space for Your Feminine Essence to Flourish
The first step in harmonizing these energies is to take a breather from the overworked, overproducing masculine within you. He’s exhausted. He’s been running the show for too long, and it’s time to soften the grip.
Because let’s be honest— The intuitive, creative, pleasurable, sensual, erotic aspects of the feminine… she has been forgotten. But the wild feminine heart is always ready to be activated. And she awakens the moment you begin to connect with your body.
When you do this, something magical happens. You begin to send your inner masculine the nectar of your feminine energy. And he will love you for it.
He will create safety within you. He will hold you so you can open.
The masculine is the container for your untamed, beautiful being to flow. He provides the structure so your creative essence can ignite. He helps you radiate your magnetism in a way that is rooted in truth. He delivers this truth. He penetrates the world with your beauty.
So as you can see… They rely on one another.
You may find yourself more in your doing, structured masculine energy in business and work, yet in your relationships, you may crave receptivity, intuition, and surrender. Or have a desire to.
So It’s not about a perfect balance—because perfection is an illusion. It’s about harmonizing, alchemizing, integrating. It’s about knowing when to lean forward and take action—and when to soften, surrender, and feel.
The feminine is in deep service to the masculine, just as the masculine is in service to her. They co-exist in a divine dance of polarity, creating an inner sanctuary of peace, love, and expansion.
So rather than shaming yourself for not being feminine enough— Or comparing yourself to the women on social media who seem to embody effortless feminine radiance—
Understand this: When you truly honor and come home to your feminine energy, the old paradigm of competition and comparison dissolves.
Because the feminine within you is your truth. There is nothing to compare to. Because your feminine essence is the exact blueprint that this world needs. She is the sacred expression of your wild feminine heart. She holds the keys to your Queendom.
When you anchor into her, you dismantle the false templates of femininity—the ones that tell you she must look a certain way, with the perfect body, perfect curves, perfect breasts. These were never the truth. The real feminine is untamed, free, and deeply connected to her body. She is safe to feel sensual—not in a performative way, but as a natural expression of her essence.
And this safety? That’s the masculine within you. He is the support system that allows your wild, sensual expression to unfold. He gives you the courage to explore your desires—whether in love, relationships, or your sacred work in the world.
The masculine is not the enemy. He is your sacred ally dear sister.
When we stop shaming our inner masculine, we stop shaming the masculine in men as well. We see their strength and power through new eyes. We see them through the sacred feminine heart. We begin to worship their divine presence. Because we have made peace with our own.
Honoring Both Energies in Your Body
The goal is not to disconnect from the masculine but to redefine his role. If he has been dominating, it’s time to loosen the grip and create space for her to thrive.
Through practice. Through nourishment. Through feminine embodiment.
Through connecting with your breasts. Through facing your emotions and offering them love. Through feeling. Through listening. Through giving yourself permission to be.
As you do this, your inner masculine strengthens in a way that is healthy and aligned. He learns to hold space for your emotions rather than suppress them. This creates a ripple effect in your life—
You set clearer boundaries. You trust yourself more. You soften into surrender in your relationships and in sex.
Because the truth is, feminine energy and masculine energy are deeply intertwined. They are not separate. They are not black and white.
These are not rigid roles, but living, breathing archetypes. And when you consciously work with them, you create balance, harmony, and a deep, loving relationship with yourself.
This is why I love this work so much. Because it’s been my journey. I used to be so in my head, anxious all the time, never safe to fully let go and allow my feelings to be felt without judging them. Perfectionism was much easier for me to hold onto because it allowed me to feel wanted and desired. But this only caused disconnection and numbness of my aliveness and my life force.
So when I started to do this work, I started to feel safe in my body, to allow a deeper layer of pleasure to enter, and healing. I healed my PCOS and IBS. My sex became more profound because I was more connected to my orgasmic aliveness.
Here is an episode that you might like to help you live an orgasmic life.
So…Learning how to dance between these energies has pulled me out of my head and into my body.
It has connected me with my sacred feminine heart and rooted me into the earth. And from this place, I have learned how to open. How to trust. How to flow.
When you do this, something beautiful happens— You unlock the gateway to your sensual aliveness.
In this opening, there is a softening. A release. A surrendering to life. Without losing your core. Without losing your power.
This isn’t about deciding, Okay, now I’ll be feminine. Now I’ll be masculine.
It’s subtler than that. It’s the moment you create space for your feminine to flourish—by taking time for self-pleasure, by massaging your breasts, by listening to your body.
That is your masculine holding space for her to express.
It’s the moment you feel confused about a decision or a man you’re dating—and instead of overanalyzing, you drop into your body, listen to your intuition, and act from that place.
That is the dance of the masculine and feminine within you.
A divine dance. A sacred weaving of energies.
And in this dance, you experience more pleasure, more joy, more magic, more love, more passion, and more orgasmic bliss than you ever thought possible.
It’s your birthright. And you can claim it.
So if you desire to deepen your connection with your sacred femininity by tapping into your sensuality and wild love, if you desire to create the safety for yourself to reclaim this pleasure, and to fully embody this QUEEN energy for manifestation, to radiate magnetism….
Here you will honor your sacred feminine energy as well as worship the sacred masculine within you. My transformational program is designed to help you unlock your feminine power, honor your rhythms, and step into your radiant essence. You can find all the details here: https://jessicaangileri.com/feminine-remembrance-come-home-to-yourself/
The time is right now to honor your body as this sacred portal for pleasure and deep profound love. If not then when?
Did you know that pleasure is one of the most powerful gateways to abundance and radiating magnetism?
When you fully embrace the power of pleasure and joy, you elevate your vibration, you are more grounded and from this space is how you align yourself with the energy of wealth, beauty, love, abundance and fulfilment.
To create beauty, ecstasy, richness, beauty, and deliciousness in your life, you must spend time cultivating and radiating that vibration outward. This is a devotion to your feminine energy with pleasure. This is not something that is of reckless indulgence – it is a sacred ritual of honouring your body, your soul essence, and your heart’s deepest desires. And it is a daily, momentum of turning on.
Your feminine asks you to relax and open your body and energetic body through pleasure, through the embodiment of your sensuality.
Unlocking your sensual self is key to safety in the body. From this space, you receive more fully and with ease. In this magnetic state, you become the lover that draws in with your natural radiance. Drawing in what is aligned with your heart’s yearnings.
Explore Your Path Of Bliss And Pleasure
How do you become magnetic?
Explore your path of bliss and pleasure.
This means allowing yourself to be immersed in pleasure practices that are already part of your daily experience.
Notice how it feels when you immerse yourself in warm water.
When you place chocolate in your mouth and allow it to melt on your younger
What happens to your body when you feel the sun meet your skin?
Notice that feeling of an intimate kiss or hug by your loved one.
Allow your hips to move slowly to music that transcends.
Read this blog post about the different ways you can embody pleasure in your daily life.
We often associate pleasure with something being sexual. In the same way, being sensual doesn’t mean being sexual. Although they all work and intertwine with one another, your pleasure is simply about honouring your desire to be in the present moment. This is how you expand your capacity to receive.
It’s not something to add to a “to-do” list, as that would be a masculine, doing-based approach, or performance. Instead, pleasure is deeply rooted in the feminine energy of presence and surrender to the NOW. Of being with yourself in the totality of your experience- feeling, connecting, sensing, tuning in, descending inward.
So Ask yourself, “What would give me pleasure in this moment?”Â
Give yourself permission and allow yourself the space and time to create it – even if it’s as simple as taking a few deep breaths and relaxing into your chair at the moment.
Or feeling your root connect with Mother Earth and feeling your presence with hers.
Or touching your body by caressing your arms and thighs so gently.
Moving your hips in circles (the feminine loves to move and play in the spiral movement).
It’s best to commit to a dedicated time frame, such as 20 minutes and set an alarm so you can let go and go deeper without feeling guilty or being distracted by the buzzing of your to-do list.
IF 20 minutes seems too much to begin with, start with 5 minutes.
Are You Blocking Your Pleasure?
When I work with clients one-on-one we look at the root of what blocks their pleasure, and it is usually connected to childhood and religious conditioning, as well as the need to fit into “a good girl” box, which numbs us down and shuts down our natural expression.
A lot of the time, they notice how this idea and need to perform has been directly tied to love and worth, which has blocked this ability to open and soften, and therefore receive.
As women, we tend to store much of our resistance and shame around pleasure in our wombs and intimate parts. This resistance can cause us to contract. And this contraction is what can also cause and manifest as physical pain.
Sometimes, these blocks stem from ancestral lineages or the collective field, carried unconsciously.
Does it sound familiar?
The truth is, when we numb our anger, frustration, and pain, we numb our capacity to feel all of our emotions, including pleasure.
Pleasure exists in your ability to connect and be intimate with all that is.
We cannot control and dissect our emotions and choose what to feel or not. We must allow ourselves and practice working on the inner safety to feel the totality. In this totality, is how we also invite in pleasure.
Therefore, the ONLY way to unlock your abundance and pleasure is to feel it all!
Learn to hold whatever is moving through your body with compassion and unconditional presence.
If you are here, reading this, you most likely know that it is our role to heal these patterns within ourselves, and it’s crucial to clear and unlock our bodies, sensuality, and sexual power.
That’s why I am encouraging you to book a Feminine Reconnect session with me, where we will descent down into the heart, body and womb- to clear, alchemise and activate love through your sensual slow connection.
Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “Your capacity to feel pleasure is your capacity to feel pain.” IT IS ABOUT FEELING!
Take a moment with me – what are you feeling in your body right now?
Pleasure is your birthright, and by reclaiming it, you step into your fullest power.
Imagine a life where joy and abundance flow to you effortlessly because you’ve opened yourself to receive. It all starts with the simple act of tuning into your feelings and honouring what brings you bliss.
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Pleasure is what I love. It is what I am exploring and devoted daily to awakening to hold more of this in my spaces with women.
Pleasure wasn’t always easy for me (even though I thought it was).
I used to rush through stressful mornings. Quickly moving, going from one thing to another. Barely with any time to breathe. And well sex.. kinda felt performative. The way I was moving through my own daily life was penetrating my sexual experiences.
I believe that the way a woman connects to her yoni and womb, a woman who makes space for DAILY pleasure, for daily slowing down, is how she walks into her sexual life and how she RECEIVES, it is how she feels ALIVE and FREE.
I realised my connection with my pleasure was missing… big time.
And a daily practice, a daily ritual to remind me of my birthright to pleasure,
To simple joy, to presence, To self-love was needed.
A daily ritual to touch my body to honour my body.
A daily ritual to move my hips in a way that wasn’t performative but one that allowed me to move and flow with my energy.
A daily ritual that allowed me to be soft with myself.
As a high-achieving gal, this was necessary for me, and probably harder than I realised. But when I did.. oh My Goddess, my life changed. My body changed. My confidence changed. My sex life changed. My relationship with my partner changed. My energy changed. My relationship with Spirit became more alive. My trust in myself was elevated.
Allowing yourself to just FEEL the aliveness of BEING with yourself – This is true self-love.
Self-liberation.
Self-care.
So, below, I’m sharing a 10-minute pleasure ritual you can use every morning to start your day to feel more elevated in love, and in your feminine energy.
Do this every morning and notice the difference.
Also, check out my other articles related to Pleasure.
Sit quietly, observing yourself and your thoughts.
Sink deeper and pay attention to the noise around.
Switch your awareness from inner silence to the noise in the environment.
Start gazing at the colours around you, and then close your eyes and contemplate the darkness for a moment.
Rub your hands together to create some heat and start by stroking your body in long, sensual caresses that make your skin tingle and your yoni wake up a little.
Be soft and gentle, and nurture yourself through this conscious touch. Take your time.
Take in a few deep, intentional breaths… Inhaling joy and pleasure and exhaling any worries for the day.
Stay present in the moment with the touch of your fingers on your skin. Touching your chest, belly, and legs. Moving your hands gently back to your breasts. holding them for a few moments and breathing into your heart space. Feeling into the subtle feeling of joy.
Move your hands in a circular motion down and up the outside of your breasts, changing directions…and using whatever pressure feels good for you. Using any kind of speed.
End the morning practice by moving your body (staying seated or coming into standing), feeling all the joy and aliveness, until the music finishes. Just basking and bringing that feeling into the context of your day.
To complete this feminine ritual, gently cup your breasts.
Bring a gentle smile to your face. Feel the joyfulness through the stillness.
Bask in the bliss.
Thank your body for offering you this joy and bliss.
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This program isn’t just filled with embodiment, and tangible self-pleasure practices for you to feel more relaxed and sensual in your skin, but you will have the opportunity to heal and redefine your values and standards as a woman in the company of other strong, extraordinary women in a safe container.
To discover more about why the Tantric Breast Massage will help not only bring pleasure into your life but guide you into living life from your heart and body wisdom.
In this blog we are going to dive into The Relationship With Your Body and Womanhood: A Journey of Awakening and Empowerment
So… What is your relationship with your body?
And how do you experience your womanhood?
These questions are at the core of understanding ourselves on a deeper, more intimate level. They invite us to reflect on how we connect with our physical and emotional selves and recognize that our womanhood, our bodies, and our lives are intricately intertwined.
Reconnecting With Your Lineage Can Set You Free
It’s essential to understand that your womanhood matters. And developing a love language with your body matters. Trusting the wisdom, the emotions, and the sensations she speaks to you matters. Taking space to be with this in your daily life matters.
The journey you’ve been on is held within your body. Not just your experiences, but also those of your mother and the women who came before you. Understanding your own mother’s path, and her relationship with her own body and how she connects with her womanhood, can often give us some insight in how we learn about our womanhood and our connection to the body. It can show us how we learn about giving and receiving, how we learn about rest and if this is something we feel guilty about. How connected we are the energies of our womb space- the center of our feminine.
We hold experiences and stories of our lineage in our bodies. Their experiences, triumphs and traumas impact our lives and shape how we live today. It shapes our nervous system and how safe we feel in our capacity to receive and allow ourselves to trust our intuitive guidance.
For most of my life, I felt anxious, I never felt the security that I desired. And I seek external validation for my intuition and desires.
When I started to work with my womb- I asked myself a question- who before me felt this way?
It not only gave me so much insight but more compassion for my mother and grandmother.
Centuries of repression and abuse of feminine principles that our ancestors and grandmothers have experienced have been passed down to us from womb to womb. And yes, we can then carry this within our bodies also. And can then influence the way we relate to ourselves, our body and others.
We are physically, emotionally and spiritually impacted by the experiences of our ancestors. We are so connected with them. We carry not only our burdens, but also those of our mothers, our grandmothers, and even the collective experiences of women through history. These burdens can manifest as physical symptoms, emotional struggles, or energetic blockages in the body.
But…
When you work with the womb, you clear old imprints and create new linguistic programming for years to come.
Come Home To Your Body for Empowerment
When you engage with your body, when you release what you’ve been holding, you make space for healing, transformation, and yes, pleasure.
Pleasure is not just an indulgence; it’s a powerful tool for healing. It allows us to reconnect with our bodies, to celebrate our womanhood, and to experience life fully. Our bodies are sacred vessels that hold both our stories and our power. When we honor that, we unlock the potential for profound change.
So imagine what a new world we as women could create.
We are in a great awakening and we are called to be the midwives of birthing a new era.
Womb healing is our doorway to the gateway to that.
No matter how many triggers show up in our days, we will never be able to work them all out. Sometimes, our body will want to feel it all, and that’s it, sometimes, she will want us to work it out, other times, just journal or dance it out and that it.
So as you can see, this isn’t about rehashing the past for the sake of dwelling on it. Instead, it’s about recognizing what comes up in your body—those emotions, sensations, and patterns that shape the way you relate to yourself and others. What is your relationship with your body?
What is the relationship you want to have?
Check out my episode about the importance of being body literate.
When we come home to our bodies, when we understand and connect with what we’ve been through—both on a personal and collective level—there’s an immense sense of empowerment and feminine awakening. This kind of awakening brings us into a place of compassion and love, not just for others but for ourselves. We begin to relate to ourselves differently
We have sex differently.
We open up differently.
And yes, we even start to receive money differently.
We heal differently. We interact differently with women. Even our relationships with our mothers and other women around us can shift when we begin to heal and understand what is stored in the body.
To Experience Your Womanhood is to Experience Love
To experience the fullness and totality of your womanhood is to experience the totality of love.
Feel how love is forever present within us, through every heartbeat, every breath in and out, every touch we offer ourselves, every moment we allow ourselves to self-soothe and become the mother to our inner girl. Every time we allow ourselves to fully feel.
Every time you show up for YOU- Regardless of the outcome, because you know whatever happens, you will always be ok.
If you go on that date and he doesn’t call back, you know you will be ok. And you are so anchored in the frequency of your own love and dignity that you are not here to settle for less than feeling safe.
Experiencing your womanhood is like cracking open. It is a rosebud pulling back her layers to bloom in the most sensual, seductive, unpredictable ways. It happens in the blossoming open.
Through your experiencing of pleasure. And the amount of pleasure that is available to you, even when you feel tired or your heart is breaking into a million pieces… OR when you feel like life is so challenging… your womanhood is awakened in your surrendering of all of this.
Feeling the the blessings.
Feeling your connection with the earth and spirit.
Your Womanhood Has Been Through So Much
Your womanhood has been through so much, always moving forward, always doing, always penetrating into life, always giving, taking care of others…
So what if first of all we just honour that and give her so much grace and compassion?
What if now you were showing up to choose another way to nourish your womanhood?
To trust what you feel deep within your body, trusting you know what you need instead of forcing things to happen. To know you are precious just in your being.
I believe your womanhood is journey of holding yourself in feeling safe to come into this receptive state. To trust your heart knows how to self heal.
To trust your womb knows what to do with the pain and heaviness.
To give yourself permission to just allow yourself to enjoy what is here. So often we push things aside, we make excuses as to why we can’t enjoy ourselves, or we continue telling ourselves we are so hurt, in the process we block our ability to just feel joy. To allow ourselves to just be in the moment.
It can sometimes feel difficult to go to these spaces of softness and sensual connection because maybe we create barriers through our stories or limited beliefs about what we believe we are worthy of receiving. but as we deepen our connection with our erotic abundance, we allow ourselves to embrace pleasure, worthiness, and self-love. We start to receive and open to more that is so healing to the pathway of our womanhood.
The Deeper the Relationship with yourself, the More Powerful You Are
As we deepen the relationship we have with ourselves, we also begin to explore what we desire in our relationships with others.
We ask: What does respect look like?
What does willingness to fully engage with life and love look like?
These questions are vital because when we show up for ourselves in a way that honors our values, boundaries, and sovereignty, we cultivate the same level of respect and reverence in our relationships with others. We become the energy we desire to attract.
Womanhood, body, sex, voice, and creation—all of these are interwoven. When we connect with our womanhood, we’re also connecting with our creative power.
This requires us to have an open dialogue with ourselves.
Are we willing to have these conversations?
Do we know how to?
Often, we don’t even realize this conversation is possible until we start listening to our bodies and tapping into the wisdom they hold.
Learning the language of the body is a simple yet profound practice. It’s an awakening, a nurturing act of self-love.
The body holds wisdom, medicine, and power, but many of us don’t know how to tune into this. It’s a process of turning inward, of coming home to ourselves and beginning to trust the messages that come through.
It’s easy to avoid this deeper work. It’s easy to distract ourselves, to numb out, to fall into patterns that keep us from confronting our inner landscape.
We tell ourselves that it’s too hard, that we don’t have the strength or resilience to face the difficult emotions held in the body. But this suffering, this emotional weight, rests in the body, waiting to be released.
When we begin to awaken to this holding, even in the simplest ways, we start to OPEN.
We realize, “I do have the power within me to move through this heartache. I do have the strength to move with my body and receive its intuitive messages.” And when we allow ourselves to release, we also open to desires.
When we breathe life into those desires, they come alive. This is the beauty of alchemizing what’s held in the body.
Sacred Embodiment
This process of release and alchemy is at the heart of the work I do with women.
It’s a guided journey, grounded in movement, reverence, and deep respect for the feminine experience. I am constantly in awe of the softness that emerges when women connect with their bodies and their pleasure.
When I witness this, I can feel and sense the release. There is often a shedding of a layer, a heaviness that lifts. Sometimes, women don’t even know what they’ve been holding onto until they feel it fall away.
Sometimes, there are tears. Sometimes, there’s a profound sense of relief. I see it—the new restfulness, the peace that comes when we let go of what has been weighing us down.
This release is about more than just feeling good. It’s about more than lighting candles and indulging in self-care rituals. It’s about deep, transformative healing. It self empowering, it’s a self-realisation of what is possible.
In the end, the relationship we have with our bodies is the foundation for everything.
It shapes how we experience our womanhood, our relationships, our abundance, and our creativity. When we turn inward, when we honor and listen to our bodies, we reclaim our power. We come home to ourselves. And that is where the real magic happens.
I’d love to support you in your journey of Returning home to your womanhood.
Together we will sit in sacredness and enjoy the pleasure, love and wisdom of your body, of your feminine magick and your sensuality.
This is about experiencing the ecstasy within your body, healing through blocks and numbness stored in the womb space (energetically cleansing), and allowing your feminine passionate force to move through your entire being.
In the realm of feminine embodiment, when we women have a desire.. This is not just a fleeting emotion of a craving to be ignored.
Your every desire is a whisper and seed planted by your inner Goddess.
It is the heartbeat, the fluttering of your heart of your feminine essence.
Feminine desire is a potent force. I believe it is what keeps us expanding as women because It keeps us moving and upgrading and relaxing into our own Queen blueprint.
Every desire is a a sacred compass guiding you toward your deepest truths, your highest joys, and the fullest expression of who you are.
As a feminine embodiment coach, I am deeply passionate about helping women reconnect with their desires as they awaken to the wise, priestess within, who is here to face the fears, and shortcomings.
To step into your full potential.
I am so passionate about harnessing our wild woman who is here to help us see where we are getting stuck in our fears of being too much.
When we connect with our wild woman, and her power, we become fearless, wise, sexy and we emulate a soft power, and we learn to see our life beyond compromise and shortcomings.
We reconnect with our vitality, our priestess manifestation powers, and a vibrancy that guides them towards their true self. A current of love that is there to help us experience greater experiences of beauty, bliss and feelings of contentment in life.Â
Listening to your Feminine desire
Whether it’s a desire for something grander in your relationship, a desire to feel more rest in your life, a desire to feel a certain way in sexual pleasure…. It is not something to ignore.
However, it is SO easy to ignore. It is so easy to not listen to the beat of our hearts.
In a world that has long misunderstood and even demonized feminine desire, I believe many women find themselves disconnected from this powerful source of wisdom.
The more we ignore our desires, the more it eats us up inside. It wipes away our natural radiance. It keeps us away from a feeling of ease in the body.
So listening to your feminine desires is a vital part of returning to your womanhood.
However, Listening to and going for your feminine desires isn’t always easy because it might ask us to shift our perception of things in spirituality, in love, in life, in relationships.
It might ask us to walk away from certain people and situations that have felt somewhat uncomfortable but not necessarily serving of our highest good and of our heart.
Now, there is a difference between desire that comes from a yearning and desperation, and desire that comes from our deep feminine sacred grounds that can’t be ignored. A desire is NOT rooted in fear or desperation, or I have to have this or I will miss out or I won’t fit in or belong. It’s NOT rooted in an unconscious pattern.
We can hear and know our desires when we are connected to the purity of the heart and our womb space. And when we practice listening to our intuitive guidance.
It is important we come to understand the sacred significance of our desires and harness them as a source of profound empowerment.
Listening to your Feminine desire and embracing it can lead to a more fulfilled and embodied life. It can guide you to being magnetic to love that you know you are deserving of, despite the mind’s play, that tells you it’s too hard, or it won’t work out…. This in fact keeps us small and moves us further away from fully experiencing the love we know deep down we are here to experience.
Reclaiming the Sacredness of Desire
For centuries, feminine desire has been shamed.
Women have felt guilty or wronged for having desires. And so our desires are often not easily heard or awakened to because since we were young, we were taught that in order to fit in, or to be a “good girl”, we must not do what feels good for us, or it is safe to be ourselves. The desire to follow our heart and intuition doesn’t make sense, so in order to continue surviving, it is easier to diminish the very seeds that may go against societal norms.
Societal norms, patriarchal structures, and religious teachings have often portrayed women’s desires as dangerous or sinful, something to be controlled or suppressed.
I know for myself, I grew up in an environment where having needs and things that I wanted was not important. I learnt that it was far more successful to ignore my own desires and needs and make others happy.
This cultural conditioning has led many women to disconnect from their desires, viewing them as something to be feared and shamed rather than embraced. We all know too well the feeling of being too much. That our dreams are too much. Needs in a relationship too much. Spiritual. gifts too much. And so on.
But your desires are NOT too much dear one.
In truth, FEMININE DESIRE IS SACRED.
It is the voice of your soul.
The pearl planted by your inner Goddess communicated to your soul and your body: I desire to be seen and be fully expressed through the heart.
It is the voice of your inner Goddess that she wants to be listened to and to be expressed.
Your desires are NOT random; they are divine impulses that guide you toward your true purpose and the experiences that will bring you the most expansion and fulfilment.
So when you reclaim the sacredness of your desires, you begin to honour them as integral to your spiritual journey. Of knowing yourself deeper as a woman.
You allow them to guide you on your path of enlightenment and alignment to our truth. You become more attuned to who YOU are. You are empowered because by listening to your desires and showing up for them.. you are choosing YOU.
As I said, it doesn’t mean listening to them and then going for desires are easy. But the more we ignore them, the more we stay small, the more we dim our light. The more we feel disconnected from our soul’s voice.The more our soul and heart feel suffocated.
Desire as a Pathway to Embodiment
If you know me, I am so passionate about awakening to the wild woman.
The wild woman who isn’t here to have her desires and needs pressed down into the darkness. She isn’t worried about how many likes and followers she has.
She carries a power rested in love.
A love that is fierce and rooted in truth.
She cares about your full wild sexual expression.
She is here to taste everything that life has to offer her and show her- especially through the dark oceans. She isn’t afraid to go to those depths to taste the pain and realise they are here to help her awaken to the light, to her own light.
She is meant to be fully embodied which means to live in alignment with your true nature, to inhabit your body with presence, and to express yourself authentically in the world.
FEMININE DESIRE is a crucial part of the embodiment process. When we tune into our heart’s desires, we reconnect with our body, the dialogue of the body and the wisdom they hold.
The more we allow ourselves to get curious about what “I desire”, the more we know what feels good, what nourishes us, what we long for, and what makes us come alive.
With every desire, I have also noticed the smallest synchronicities. Like opening a door that leads to another door. You might not notice it at the moment, but every time you listen to your feminine desire and follow its lead, you are guided towards expansion and more of who you are at the soul level.
Through the lens of Tantra, desire is seen as a sacred gateway to deeper states of consciousness and awakening. By following the path of our desires, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, uncovering the layers of our being that have been hidden or suppressed.
This journey is not always easy, as I mentioned. This is because it often requires us to confront fears, old wounds, and distorted societal conditioning. But this is very much part of the feminine journey of the wild woman.
It is through this process that we come into our full power as unapologetically embodied women.
This is the initiation of the wild woman.
The Empowerment of Embracing Desire
When we embrace and own our desires, we step into our power.
We step into our true selves.
We recognize that our desires are not weaknesses or distractions but ARE integral to our empowerment.
There is an empowerment behind it because, with the desire there is an aspect of courage. And a realisation of what is possible. There is always Courage to meet the desire especially when confronted with fears.
Here we can realise” I did this. I can do this. I am more powerful than I realise. I listened to my intuition, aka my soul’s voice, the voice of my inner navigation system, which is guided by the Goddess.”
When unleashed, FEMININE DESIRE fuels our creativity, it ignites our passions, and is the drive t pursue our dreams. It is the energy that propels us forward, urging us to expand and grow beyond our limitations. We realise what is truly possible.
It is infinite.
We are infinite in energy and potential.
Read more about how women block their desires here.
Desire in relationships
In the context of relationships, embracing desire allows us to communicate our needs and boundaries with clarity and confidence.
This is why it is so important to know what YOU desire for yourself. And to not be ashamed for it either. To get so anchored in your self-worth, that you know what you need to feel safe in a relationship and what it is you desire in a relationship to continue flourishing.
And then knowing how to communicate that to your loved one, from a place of integrity and presence. Without assuming they know or even fearing, is this too much? It is about expressing your desires from a place of assertiveness but also with HEART.
The more you tap into your own desires, the more you feel empowered to seek connections that are truly nourishing and aligned with our highest good. In our personal lives. You understand what it is you desire in order for your values to feel nourished and your goals to bloom.
How to Cultivate a Relationship with Your Desires
So how do you listen and receive your desires?
To cultivate a healthy relationship with your desires, begin by listening to them without judgment.
This is so important…To notice, to build trust to listen and discern what is your desire and what is the voice of external forces.
Create space in your life to explore what you truly want, both in the small moments and the grand visions.
Practice self-compassion and release any guilt or shame associated with your desires.
That this is too much. This is impossible. Who am i to have this thought or desire?
Remember that the HOW doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are showing up, even in the smallest way, making space to be in the frequency that matches this desire. Is it love, is it softness, is it wase to receive without feeling like you have to force, is it trust, is it integrity, is it compassion? This is how you reflect outward what it is you desire to call in. You become the frequency match for that desire you desire to call in.
Start with one small tiny action. Small actions are vital, otherwise we get so overhwlemed. Start with that one date, notice what you liked or didn’t like.
How did you desire to feel?
Remember that your desires are a reflection of your unique essence and are worthy of being honored.
Incorporate practices that help you stay connected to your desires, such as embodiment exercises, womb healing, or energy activations, sensual movement practices, which you know I love.
These practices can help you tune into the subtle whispers of your soul and strengthen your connection to your inner guidance. Helping you become more attuned to what truly brings you joy, pleasure, and fulfilment. Sometimes, we really have to honour what feels like a No to know what feels like a Yes. That is why feeling the pain and what you are allowing to fall away, is essential in this process.
Incorporating embodiment practices can help you stay connected to your desires. Womb healing, meditation, and sensual movement practices are just a few ways to tune into the subtle whispers of your soul. These practices allow you to deepen your relationship with your body and its wisdom, helping you become more attuned to what truly brings you joy and fulfilment.
And of course…
Surrounding yourself with a supportive sisterhood or community can also be incredibly powerful. When we gather with other women who are on a similar journey of self-discovery, we create a space where desires can be expressed without fear or shame. We then feel more empowered to pursue our desires with more willpower.
Feminine Desire in the Collective
I believe as more women reclaim and embrace their desires, more women reclaim their true authentic selves.
The more they choose their womanhood. Over what everyone is saying the feminine or womanhood is.
They are not afraid to be themselves.
This is the journey of unlocking your wild woman.
As we do this, we begin to shift the collective consciousness around feminine power and embodiment. When we give ourselves to experience desire fully and openly, we inspire others to do the same. This creates a ripple in the ocean which has the potential to transform not only our individual lives but also our communities and the world at large.
Feminine desire is not just a personal experience—it is a collective force. It encourages us to create a world where women are free to express themselves authentically, pursue their passions, and live in alignment with their true nature.
It gives space for women to not fear who they are, their spiritual gifts and attunement and their sensuality- as this great expression of the Goddess. The healing juice for this world.
As more women step into their power and embrace their desires, we begin to dismantle the societal structures that have kept us small and disconnected from our bodies.
In this way, feminine desire becomes a force for collective empowerment and healing. It is a call for all women to reclaim their birthright to feel, desire, and create from a place of deep authenticity and love.
Together, let us embrace our desires, embody our power, and create a world where the sacredness of feminine desire is honored and celebrated.
Join Us in Our Temples of Ecstatic Aliveness, in Feminine Remembrance
This journey of reclaiming your desires and feminine power is just beginning. If you’re ready to dive deeper into the practices of feminine embodiment and Tantra, I invite you to join Feminine Remembrance, A sisterhood Immersion where we celebrate the sacredness of feminine desire. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together.
