I see you, sister. You’ve done the work.
You’ve read the books, journaled about your ideal partner and probably even dipped your toes into manifestation work where you create a vision board or envision your ideal partner every single day.
You feel good in your body.
You show up and do the work.
And yet… you still end up with emotionally unavailable men, men who don’t choose you fully, or ones who make you question your worth. You find yourself chasing and initiating things all the time.
It’s exhausting. I know I’ve been there, trust me.
You want just to be CHOSEEN fully. You want to be SEEN.
Before I met Carlos, my now partner, I will admit I went on very many dates, and none really felt like they were for me. And I’m not saying there weren’t great guys out there, trust me there are.
But after countless dates, and showing up fully on these dates, giving my all.. .I still did not feel like he was right, even though on paper he seemed great.
And that’s something I want to restate… it’s not there there are “wrong men,” it’s just that.. you want to find someone who fully meets you where you are.
Here is what no one will tell you… It’s not about finding the right man.
It’s about becoming the version of you that naturally attracts love without chasing it.
Who receives him effortlessly.
Who sees the man who is present, who is conscious, who is loving. Who chooses you fully. And how does he choose you fully?
You have to choose your WHOLE self fully.
The Patterns That Keep You Stuck
One of my clients, Lisa, is the kind of woman who is confident and beautiful (inside and out). But when it came to love, she felt like she was on a never-ending treadmill—always chasing, never truly receiving.
She would attract men who seemed promising at first but would slowly pull away. She’d convince herself she needed to be less—less emotional, less intense, less demanding. And in doing so, she betrayed herself again and again.
Like putting herself in a tiny box.
It’s like she couldn’t get it right.
This was my story also. I used to find myself attracting men, who were adventurous, exciting, and passionate. People say you have to be compatible to be together but we were very compatible. So why were my relationships in the past never working? We had very similar interests, we travelled beautifully. We were very compatible…this is why I believe it needs to go deeper than just compatibility..
I would always find myself, once the “excitement” and heightened pleasure of the new relationship “wore off,” there was a lack of willingness on his end. And I found myself then overcompensating or trying to prove that my love was still worthy. Leaving me to feel, unshaky, unworthy, and unloved.I started to “lose myself.” I found myself pushing the love to continue to blossom and to continue working like it did in the beginning.
In the process… found myself actually making myself small, in the way, it became more about him, and his needs, and slowly over time forgetting mine, or being shamed for them. I started to self-sacrifice. And it happened gradually over time.
Check out this video I did about making the ‘honeymoon period” last in a relationship
The Deep Root of the Problem
The issue wasn’t Lisa’s desirability and the issue wasn’t me being unworthy—it was our beliefs about love and worth. Like many women, they have been conditioned to believe that she has to earn love. That she needed to be perfect to be chosen.
That she needs to chase love and that pleasure is this thing you need to keep chasing or that it needs to be this high and low.
All of this has to do more to be seen as worthy or to receive love.
This belief system is why so many high-achieving, gorgeous women struggle in love. It’s not because there is something wrong with her. It’s just that she is operating from her masculine energy—proving, chasing, controlling—rather than leaning into their natural feminine magnetism. Trusting herself so much. She makes space for herself daily and knows how to tend to not only her body but her heart.
This feminine magnetism is in every woman. It is in you. It is this innate quality within all of us that calls in.
The question is? What are you calling in?
What or who are you consciously magnetising?
If you want to call in the man who is present, who sees you for you, who makes you FEEL safe, who adores you without you needing to shrink you, but instead holds the space for you so you can continue rising into more of who you are… Then you have to shift something.
Something calls for your internal attention.
And it’s not more makeup, it’s not more sex tips and it’s not more manifestation tips.
The Shift That Changes Everything
When Lisa and I worked together, we dismantled these old beliefs. Not from the head or mind by overanalysing every detail…
We helped her reconnect with the part of her that was already worthy, without needing to prove anything. We found her way back to the part of her that is already LOVE, BEAUTIFUL, WORTHY.
We explored her sensuality, her deep emotions, and her desires in a way she had never allowed herself before.
Lisa showed up, she was committed to returning to her WHOLE true self and she never blamed anyone. Instead she called her power back by remembering what this love and worthiness felt like her bones, over and over again.
And then…
True Love started finding her. LOVE that she felt in her body, in her heart. A love that made her feel safe. A love that made her feel like a Queen.
And this love that she met with every single day on her own.
This love that is innate in her, in you, in all of us.. was awakened underneath the doubts, the constant overthinking, the resistance to this work…
And she called in a man, not just any man. A man who saw her beauty too because She was so anchored in her natural radiance. In this space of I know who the f*ck I am, and I know I have so much to offer, in my love, in my compassion, in my empathy, in my ability to be your biggest cheerleader.. this spoke louder than any words..
Her heart beamed.
She attracted the man who saw her beauty and knew he had found a gift. Because she was OPEN, SOFTENED, SURRENDERED, CENTERED in who the f*ck she was.
Your Next Step- Become Your Best Lover
If you’re tired of attracting the wrong men, it’s time to look within. It’s time to claim your Queen’s greatness and be the best lover of your life.
Are you embodying the energy of a woman who is worthy, or are you still trying to prove yourself?
Because a Queen doesn’t prove herself.
A lover doesn’t self-sacrifice.
If you’re ready for this shift, not tomorrow, or next year.. but now.. Feminine Remembrance is designed to help you break free from old patterns and embody the version of you that effortlessly attracts deep, lasting love- because you learn how to be your own best lover
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