Bring back Your Libido through the act of Self Love

So often I receive emails and questions about how to connect deeply with libido again. We think there is something wrong with us if we can’t get turned on fast or if we are lacking the desire to be intimate physically with someone.

We create these stories about ourselves or we put alot of pressure on ourselves to be and feel a certain way.

For most women, we desire to feel good in the body, we desire to tap into pleasure and do so in a way that doesn’t feel overwhelming or difficult.

First thing to remember is that you are so worthy of love just for being you.

You are holy and whole.

You are deserving of feeling alive and activated in the body.

You are deserving of love simply for being alive. Remember that.

Receiving that love, however, can be easier said than done.

That’s where self-love rituals and practices come in. Often underestimated, loving yourself in so many ways is the foundation of your confidence, relationships, and your libido. Self love is how we know our bodies, our breasts and yoni, and it is how we feel this deep source of love. It happens when we come into this embodiment and aliveness of the body.

When we pay attention to our body’s wisdom. And trusting her as our greatest source of wisdom.

If your sexual desire has been lacking lately, it may be time to reflect on your level of self-love. And how you feel about yourself. How you feel about your naked body. How you self soothe. How you hold yourself in all moments.

I am not one for quick fixes and skipping the process. I am all about embracing sensuality and connection, the feminine way. In this way, our sexual radiance, pleasure and libido is sustainable and long lasting.

Here’s how to do it. And it doesn’t have to be hard.

Self love and Libido are Connected

First, it is important to become aware of the link between self love and libido.

I know that self love is such a term floating around isn’t it?

But when I say self love, I don’t mean just dancing around and having bubble baths. Self love is about being in this beautiful reverence, honour, and respect of you and your body. It is nurturing your feelings and being your own mother to the little girl inside.Soothing the nervous system and being able to expand into this Queen energy. It is loving your yoni in more ways than you can imagine. It is reaching into your heart and finding the space within you that is always love.

Your self love all comes down to the connection with yourself and how you view yourself.

This includes your naked body.

It is having the most intimate relationship with your yoni. It is acknowledging your special sauce, your signature, your voice in this world. All of it matters.

When you don’t feel valuable or connected to yourself, it’s hard to know yourself and feel connected to your body, your sensuality and your sense of pleasure.

It can feel difficult to fully embrace your body and experience pleasure.

What’s the first step to getting your libido back?

To get your libido back on track, start by doing a self-love check-in.

Create some space in your day to intentionally be with you. Take a moment to create a lovely ritualistic sensual space where you can be just with yourself.

Light some candles. Smell some incense and essential oil. Grab your journal and ask yourself these questions:

• On a scale of 1 to 10, where is my self-love currently and in general?
• What practices boost my self-love?
• When I think of a pleasurable moment, what does that look like?
• Where do I feel pleasure in my body just thinking of this moment?
• What habits drain my energy and take me further away from my true nature?
• Do I allow myself to receive pleasure?

Yes, pleasure and receiving go hand in hand. For these are divine feminine qualities afterall.

When you do a self reflection such as this, it starts to give you clarity in your life, as to where you may be not honouring your body, your self love and your receptive nature. You can start to see where you are not allowing yourself to feel pleasure, to feel good.

So often our mind has other plans for us. So it is up to us to make the space and time to invite in pleasure. Boosting your self-love takes effort and devotion, but there are practical steps you can take to help you along the way.

How to boost self love and libido

A way to help you boost your libido and be connected to this frequency of love is through Movement practices like dance. But not any kind of dance, Dance that really allows your hips to move and open.

Touching yourself, holding yourself. Getting used to this connection with yourself starts to build trust with yourself and intimacy.

Get into touch with your creativity- does that mean painting, dancing, singing, painting for you?

Seeking guidance from someone/coach you love and trust.

If you would like to book a session with me, reach out to me and let’s meet. In my Feminine Reconnect Sessions we sit together in a space that is beautiful and loving for you to share with no judgments. It is a moment where you are held to explore your womb space and your body in loving ways.

In Feminine Reconnect…..

We work on clearing some stagnant energies in your sacral chakra as well as the body.

We use different healing modalities such as sacred touch, sacred movement (especially in the hips/pelvic region) and we use breath to move that energy around in the body and to alchemise so then we can activate your pleasure codes.

If you are desiring support in reconnecting with your sacred feminine energy and you feel my energy aligns with yours- let’s have a chat sister.

Book your discovery call here.

Yoni Self Care

Another thing I love is self pleasure practices. Like offering your pussy sacred touch. In this way, it is not masturbation. It is an offering to your yoni, to your pleasure self who deserves to feel good . Who deserves to luxuriate in your own bodies fluids and gorgeousness.

For no other reason but for being you.

Be your Own Source of Pleasure

So often we make excuses as to why we can’t enjoy ourselves. For a lot of us we may not even have the tools and resources to know what pleasure feels like in the body without shame seeping through.

We make up excuses as to not dive into pleasure.

Yes, we women hold alot of shame around this. So as soon as we start to open our bodies to receive pleasure, we start to feel safe and when we feel safe with simple, tangible, non-invasive practice and guidance, we start to allow ourselves to feel turned on.

This is why practicing self pleasure on yourself is one of the best ways to be your own resource of love and goodness. If you can’t do this for yourself then how can we expect this from our loved ones.

When you’re feeling disconnected from yourself, it shows up during sex, whether that’s with yourself or a partner. You might have a hard time feeling pleasant and feeling all the nuances of pleasure that can offer . You may just feel like you’re going through the motions, versus actually enjoying the experience.

You might be staying in your head. You might feel your body contract, because perhaps this has been her default way of moving through life. But sister, you can change this.. it just takes practice and devotion. And being your own source of love.

So when you are being intentional with your self love, pleasure practice you also meet with the doubts and shame, and we can offer our pleasure as a way to melt this away. This is alchemising. And then we start to open more. When we are open and relaxed, it means we feel more turned on.

So take your time, set the mood, and really focus on connecting with your body.

By intentionally practicing self-love, you can make a significant difference in your overall well-being, including your libido.

Remember, you are worthy of love in all forms, including love from yourself.